Morgan
Hi my son is 5 and will be 6 on 31st july he is currently in year 1 at school.

His behaviour is getting worse with major outburst running out of class becoming very with drawn has trouble making friends well behind in learning aswell as talking like a baby he has been excluded from school due to his behaviour being so bad. He doesnt look at you when talking and when you say look at me he looks then within seconds he turns his head.

He doesnt understand feelings of himself or others when he runs his teachers tell me he laughs all the time and when they touch him he gets worse. We were getting some of this at home but not as bad as he is at school since being in lockdown we have noticed more and have had major melt downs/outburst which result in him running to his room and hiding under his weighted blanket and cuddling his weighted Koala we are at a loss of what to do and need some help or advise 
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Morgan
He cant sit still and has poor concentration his fine motor isn't great compared to other 5 year olds and his learning is low. We are at a loss is it just him being 'naughty' or is it something else 
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Jason Shaw jay3779
Hi Morgan. It sounds like classic attention seeking behaviour. He's desperate for attention, but of the right sort. As an ex teacher, we as a staff positively reinforced the behaviour we wanted to see, and ignored (literally, no eye contact or response) the attention seeking behaviour we didn't. At home, you can start to articulate the behaviour you want to see indirectly, by referring to the good behaviour of siblings, adults etc. The average kids TV show tends you work against this approach. Perhaps prioritize sensible TV shows. At his age and awareness level, you are trying to change behaviour using behaviourist/ Pavlovian theories, where you reward good behaviour (carrot) and discourage (stick) poor behaviour. I suspect your school doesn't have this kind of policy of positive reinforcement and is constantly fighting fires. Jason.
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Morgan
He doesnt watch tv he is constantly on the go cant sit for very long doesnt like loud noises he will run and hide with fingers in his ears he gets lots of attention for positive things and bad ignored but when he is becoming unsafe at school they have to step even when he is getting attention for the positive if his made to sit for to long he starts to get frustrated and then outburst will start. I feel the class teacher has washed her hands with him and just sees a naughty little boy he has very poor vision aswell which he finds tricky and cannot express his feelings or how others feel he also struggles to tell us what happened 
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. If you're worried about your child's behaviour then we suggest that you discuss it with your GP and they may refer him for assessment. Ideally the school should have suggested assessment, we suggest you get a copy of the school's complaints policy, which they're required to provide you with by law, and make a complaint if you feel inclined to. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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