Tweety
Hi, we have 2 boys aged 6 and 11. For a while now their behaviour and attitude at home is outrageous.  They are both doing well at school and their behaviour is outstanding at school. At home, they are rude, have full blown tantrums,  show aggression, throw things and my 6 year old even hits us and tell us to shut our mouth. We are both from a close knit loving family and we have done the same for our boys, but we are at our wits end now and are struggling to cope. They kick off when they don't get their own way (eg have to go shopping, no tablet/xbox time, whats cooked for dinner, bath time etc) and then that behaviour lasts the whole evening or weekend.  They never apologise  and we have also spoken to their school. We are told that's what most children do, they're good at school and a nightmare at home. Help! We don't know what to do anymore  😟
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a troubling and difficult situation. If you're worried about your children's behaviour you may find it helpful to discuss it with your GP. What kind of discipline have you tried? Have you tried anything else? You may find it helpful to read our articles on child behaviour and challenging behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222. 
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Nikkibblack
Hi I have 2 daughters Iage 6 and 10 've found the word no and dont or do this now are big triggers in our house giving choices that give me what I want but give them some control in the situation has worked  anxiety can display as anger  things like this have helped me 
Would you like a bath before or after you've had dinner/watched that programme 
Would you like a or b for dinner
After you have finished watching your programme/ eating Would you like to help me with some shopping 
would you like to go to tesco or morrisons to get the shopping 
Can you help me find this item and cam you go and find me this item to the older one  

This is just a few examples  mine are both well behaved in school your their safe place where they feel safe to let it all out when we get it from school  I sometimes let them play with slime  paint or they have time in their rooms  watching some tv just to unwind from holding it all together at school  I was in the same place as you but slowly giving choices has been the game changer 
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