I have been with my partner for 11 years, we have been engaged for 5 years and have a 3 year old son. We are due to get married in November 2020.


Over the last few years intimacy has reduced, initially due to having a new born, but it has never recovered. I accepted that that must be what life with children is like,

, and then I’m recent months, more so since we were put on lockdown due COVID-19 I have begun to question our relationship as I long for more intimacy (not just sex, but some show of affection hugs/kiss when returning from work etc.) as she has been very cold for some time now.


We were out walking on Sunday  and she asked me if o still wanted to get married. Without thinking I responded ”I don’t know” as I don’t feel you love me anymore.


I still love her, and our family But I’m just concerned about entering marriage if the love isn’t there. I still want to marry her.


I wish I hadn’t responded how I did. And had raised my feelings in another way.


Her immediate reaction was of course I do, we need to work on getting sex back in to the relationship.... however since then she has asked lots of questions and suggested that when the COVID lockdown is over that we trial a separation.



I really want to turn this round and right things and want to use the next few weeks to start to repair the damage that I have done.


Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. Have you tried airing out your feelings and your worries about the relationship? Perhaps couples counselling could be helpful, Relate is an organisation that provides such services. You might find it helpful to read our articles on divorce and separation. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.