I am wondering if any one has experienced temper tantrums TT with their 4 year old and how they deal with these?

A little background, these TT started in January this year when my daughter went back to nursery from the Christmas break.

Prior to this she has always been at the same nursery ( since she was 1 years old), and was a happy, affectionate, confident full of life child.

since January she has bitten and lashed out with very raging temper tantrums! I would like to add we as Parents have never witnessed a tantrum like this at home and asked the nursery to record it as we found it difficult to believe.

She started biting her nails around the same time, which tells me she is anxious about something! I have had meetings with the nursery and feel they were a little slow to this and struggled with a plan of action, as I called a meeting and presented a number of suggestions which they agreed to use ( May I add, I am no early years practitioner). We have also implemented a chart at home and are remaining consistent with our discipline and consequences.

She is bitting the staff when she has a temper tantrum / melt down when she has been restrained. The nursery have now built it into their policy that if She bites we are called and have to come and collect her... we have probably collected her about 5/6 times since the beginning of this year and both work full-time.

I am of course concerned about her behaviour but more so that it has just appeared out of the blue! 

What professionals should I be seeking advice from as I don’t feel I am getting much direction from the nursery. 

Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated because we are both at our wits end and is making us feel really miserable.

Thank you

Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. It's great that you've gone to all the effort to create charts and are in heavy contact with the nursery. If your child has a sudden and unexplained change in personality and behaviour, then we suggest you discuss it with your GP. If it's possible, then take a long hard think about what might have changed to trigger this behaviour in your child. You may find it helpful to read our articles on challenging behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.