My teenager called me a name because I told her to stop shouting.
Also slamming doors constantly because I turned off the Internet because of swearing.
It got out of controll untill I turned it back on.
I was being told to f......off.
How do others deal with swearing
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult situation. However, swearing doesn't seem to be the big issue here. She seems to react rather outlandishly for not getting what she wants. Teenagers tend to swear, as much as adults do, and if you react to it then they're going to know that it bothers you and might just use it to wind you up. The most important part of discipline is consistency, stick to your guns and make sure she knows that you find this behaviour unacceptable. You may find it helpful to read our articles on teenage behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
Hi This is a problem I am also dealing with.he just wants to be left alone in his room to play games with friends. I have told how important it is to communicate with friends and usually let him carry on. But ask him to do anything i get the swearing, he says i need time to calm down then doesnt do it. Swearing when he asked to do anything at all including school work. You are definately not on your own, and it does affect the whole day. You are almost afraid to ask for anything. I have tried rewards for listening, and even asked him to write out a timetable but its not working.
Nick Holas
Same. I've been called every name under the sun by my son due to the tantrums about computers and phone. If he swears at me or his mum or is generally abusive I take away his screens. Unfortunately he is so defiant he would rather lose all his possessions for days than admit he has done anything wrong, or apologise. As far as he is concerned, we are completely unreasonable and a 12 year old should be allowed access to phones/screens until 4am every night and shouldn't have to do anything he doesn't want to! We have spoilt him... I have put a lot of money and time into things to keep him busy but right now I'm giving up on that because it seems all my efforts are thrown back in my face (meanwhile his better behaved sibling gets ignored because we're always dealng with the problem child).