Sammyg65
Hi my 16 year old son has just failed his GCSES he is bright but just doesn’t bother, I suspect is also smoking weed , he hasn’t bothered to get a part time job over summer and only cares about seeing his friends, at my wits end as can’t seem to change his behaviour.  Maybe I’ve made life too easy but welcome any advice 
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sweettooth
Hi sammy i am new to this group as i also have a just gone 17yr old daughter i have been fairly strict on her but obviously not enough hence why i have joined this group. She is my 3rd teen i struggled with the others but not as bad as her although they also had their moments but she is blackmailing me. I try to punish her but i am also fighting her dads parents her grandparents who live round the corner as they undermine me which doesn't help. My daughter as only started looking for a job but i think this is because she wants to move out i turned the internet off on her last night, she said you can't do that i am 17 not a baby, at the min we are going through a very hard patch since she as got with this new boyfriend, i also suspect weed, horrible stuff i have 2 older children on it they have thrown away their lives. I feel sorry for my youngest she is nearly 13 she just hears all the arguments it isn't good for her, or anyone. 
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. Blaming yourself is common in these situations, but you can only help your child so much, especially when they're at an age where they're expected to take more responsibility. Unfortunately, this is a common issue. Sometimes, when children get their first taste of independence they rebel and do things that can be detrimental to their future. It's important to remember that he's still young and will make decisions you will not agree with, the best you can do is voice you displeasure and how you see more potential in him, be there and try to support him the best you can. You may find it helpful to read our articles on drugs and alcohol and teenage behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call us on our freephone helpline at 0808 800 2222. 
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