Tee
Don’t  find this site helpful at all. Was desperate yesterday for advice and no one....no one has replied?????
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familylives
Hi Tee

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Jack
Tee I think you are unreasonable surly your son is old enough to make his own decisions I think it maybe because of your actions maybe that is why he doesn’t visit regularly we have to be there for our children if all fails we cannot stop them making decisions right or wrong all’s you will gain is more distant relationship and there’s many people who are desperate to find answers right away example why your unhappy with your post not getting a reply right away acting spoilt comes to mind Samaritans help is there if your that desperate I’m writing this as the problem your having is not a desperate need I’m sure if admin would have been it touch if you desperately needed answers I have been sexually abused as a youn little girl as far back as I can remember I kept it a secret because at first I was to young to know it was abuse then as I got older and understood this evil man was to blame not me also I couldn’t tell my beautiful mum and dad as the older I got I was deeper in despair I couldn’t let them find out my dad would be seriously in trouble with what he would of done to this family member my dad got I’ll with copd he Passed away only 12 weeks later my mum who was a angel without wings cared for my poor dad her own problems were left she told not a soul until results off a visit to her gp tests my mum had terminal secondary lung cancer eight weeks we had to watch her deteriorate six months after my dad my mum passed !!!? My husband was a serial cheat a alcoholic who mentally abused me physically he would abuse me when my children were not aroun then he left me for someone else my care were so angry and hurt by him I made sure they didn’t end up feeling guilty and told them he was there dad and never stop talking to him when something happens to him what the hell eoudbit do to them the guilt would be there with them forever as his illness with drink deteriorated I made myself help him and my children by being there for him then the day came he had come to my daughters house she went on a message half a hour later returned home and she went to check on him the toilet door she couldn’t open she ran to my house hysterically I ran round to hers pushed the door as hard as hell to find my husband not breathing he was pronounced dead 50 minutes later in hospital if my kids had turned there back in him would scar them for life at his funeral I said to my children we have to involve his girlfriend who he left me for in the funeral from beginning to end I think my actions really made a difference to my children and taught them the biggest lesson in life always be there for who you think needs You be the better person it makes such a difference be kind caring and smile every day make a persons day just by smiling it’s infectious the bad morning they may have been having has just got a little better by your actions as I’m writing this I feel angry that you think you have a big problem I think you may be a little jealous of your step children there relationship with there dad I’m in tears as I am writing this because you who thinks about herself before anyone else as shocked me next time when know is a your beck and call instead of being selfish and acting like a spoilt  brat that person who you want to jump up to you may be in a far and darker situation than you I’m sorry of I’ve offended you in any way I’m just hoping this can turn you into a happier better person put other people who have not a person in the world who they can turn to in consideration honestly there’s people who live on the streets Starving your beside your self about a villa and a man your stepson who’s quite more caring about other people than you will ever be I’m sorry for the long reply but I hope you take note and never take anyone or anything for granted I’m one upset and angry person with people like you who don’t know or want to know how the other half live 😢
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Tee
Thank you for your reply. I’m so sorry you have gone through all this. I hope you find peace. 
I do find your advice hurtful. My topic is only the tip of the ice burg. Obviously you don’t know my full story. To cut it short. It is my stepson that is the issue and always has been. I met his father years after him and his mother parted. He’s never accepted me or my three children ( one of them is his own step sister) I’ve only ever tried to be right with my step son until he’s now come to the age of 36 and I’ve had enough. He’s tried years to split me and his father up. He’s the spoilt jealous brat, thankyou very much. I could write a book about this as we’ve been through hell. He isn’t close to his father and that’s his choice. His father has fought hard to keep him in his life from him being 3 years old. It’s only now that his father and myself are doing well that he now wants to be a part of it although not in visiting his dad! He’s seen him 3 times in 6 years and two of those occasions it was me that instigated it! Just wants the cream so to speak. He’s a nasty price of work and unbelievable what he’s done in the past. You are judging in something you know nothing about. We’ve worked bloody hard my husband and me for what we have and deserve it! Spoilt doesn’t come into it! It’s come to us by very hard graft! A lot of your comments are nasty and without knowing someone’s full story you are wrong to judge. 
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familylives
Hi, I am sorry that there appears to be some misunderstanding. In most cases, there is a presenting issue but there is a lot of back story and issues behind this. It is important to ensure that language is safe and supportive rather than critical or negative. Please do read the terms and conditions of the forums if you need further clarification or email me directly at webcoordinator@familylives.org.uk. Many thanks, Moderator. 
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