Sprinkles
I'm at a loss as to how to deal with my son. He's been found out to be lying a lot lately and we've been punishing him for that also talked to him about the consequences of lying etc. Then today I asked him to tidy his room and my partner checked on it and found it wasn't done, he's been pushing all his toys and dirty clothes under his bed. Then we found ripped up books which weren't his under there. It feels completely disrespectful. I don't know why he's behaving like this. I don't know how to fix it when punishments or talking don't help. I don't know where I've gone wrong. I don't know if he's acting out because he has no real relationship with his dad or because of the quarantine or because I've not been there enough for him in the past - my previous relationships were abusive.  The relationship I am in now is wonderful and until recently everyone has got on wonderfully but the lying and disrespectful behaviour is becoming a huge problem and I don't know how to fix it.
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. Have you asked him about how he's been feeling lately, if having to stay inside has made him frustrated or tired or bored? Has he been in counselling? Sometimes issues can arise once a stressful situation is over and the person feels safe because during stressful situations our minds focus on getting us through it and only relax once it's over. You could contact your GP to discuss his behaviour. You may find it helpful to read our articles on child behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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