My husband would like to adopt my son (nearly 6 years old).  The birth father lives in another country, pays monthly child maintenance, but has had no contact with my son since birth.  The birth father and his parents (grandparents) send gifts for my son's birthday and Christmas, but no other contact since birth.  I send weekly email updates with photos to the birth father, and have done for nearly 6 years with no response.  He did not respond to the email I sent when I remarried a few years ago, nor did he respond to the email I sent when my son's sister was born, nor to the email I sent when my son started school.  He has not shown any interest in meeting my son, speaking to him over the phone or Skype, and has never asked anything about him - what he likes doing, favourite colour, how tall, what size clothes, etc.  Nothing.
Has anyone experienced a similar situation?  I'm curious as to your outcome, if the adoption was successful?  I feel that the birth father will contest the adoption, as he contested the child arrangements order, which stated my son lives with me. (I don't know why he did this because who else does my son live with?  The birth father is a bit of a narcissistic fool.)  Any help or guidance would be appreciated.
Thank you!
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