Lola
Hi everyone , need some advice please .My son of 15 has wrote me a letter telling me he's bisexual but he has been talking to a boy same age for 3 weeks he lives in a different city and is friends with one of his friends , so he says ...I just feel really unsure of this not that he's gay just not sure how to manage this ...do we encourage this by allowing this boy to come or do we just let them chat , he has exams coming up and just not sure how to approach all of this , I have talked to him about being safe online ie no pics ect hes not a daft boy but just worried for him ...any advice would be appreciated.  
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familylives
Hi, thank you for your post. I can understand why you are looking for some guidance on this issue. It sounds as though you and your son have a very close and open relationship which is really refreshing to see. The fact that he has confided in you about his sexuality is very huge as so many young people do not feel able to open up. I can see why you have concerns as your son is only 15 and he has exams. It sounds as though it would help to have some kind of compromise. Would it be feasible for them to meet up for one day perhaps at a halfway point and maybe you could go along for the travel? The issue is that if this person does come to stay at yours and they don't get along this could be awkward. Whatever you decide, it is important to trust your instincts and have boundaries in place if he does come to stay. It does seem as though you have already done this too. 
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Lola
I feel at a loss , as I really am struggling with what to say as Im scared to say the wrong thing .I have told him that he can come to our home his dad will bring him .And that boundaries will be in place .I just feel so protective of him I know how cruel the world can be .I would hate him to experience such cruelty .I love him with all my heart his dad is struggling a little but just wants us to be careful how we manage this .I would love to hear from other parents as I just feel alone . 
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Frida
I really understand your concern that you don't want to do or say the wrong thing and then your son won't confide in you. 
I think its great that your son and the boy are happy to meet in your home which is a safe place as you and your husband are both around. 
I suggest being very relaxed about it and treating it as if he was having a friend over to hang out with.  
Tey to think about how you would set boundries if it were a girl he was hanging out with were romance might be blossoming.  At this age children are naturally starting to feel emotions and attraction to others so the least fuss the better.
I think your son is very lucky to have a mum like you who cares so much about his feelings,  unfortunately we can not protect them from being hurt if that does end up being the outcome as they have to live and learn. Its such a tricky time for teens but we have all been there and just remember to be there to listen to him if he needs a chat or a shoulder.
All the best 
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