Hi all. 
I have an 8 Yr old and we have had shared parental responsibilities for 5 years now. 
For the whole 5 years I have truly struggled with my sons behaviour, not listening, no respect for me, hits out and me and his siblings....and he is just getting worse. 

At my house he is the middle child and at his dads he is an only child. He behaves fine with his dad, they don't have any outbursts or bad behaviour and he much prefers being there toy house. 

I am now at my wits end with his behaviour and really want to tackle it but I feel that only having 4 days at a time with him is not long enough! He know that no matter how he behaves, at the end of the 4 days he gets to go visit his dad (who will discipline him for his behaviour with me) and be an only child where the attention is all on him. 

I want to try and cut down the amount of contact he has with his dad just for a short time so that he has more time with his siblings to try and get him to cope better when around them. However his dad is point blank refusing!

Any help or suggestions are very much appreciated. 
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. The way to change that would be through a contact order, which would mean going through the courts. The Child Law Advice website has an extensive archive of information on the law surrounding children. You can contact them, but you may be asked to book a call and may be charged, on 0300 330 5480. You may find it helpful to read our articles on childhood behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.