shellypop40
I'm a 47 year old female and for most of my life I've been very sexually active , I was married for 20 years and we never tired of it. After my divorce I met my partner who I e been with for 9 years now, in the beginning sex was great but after our sin was born my partner seemed to lose interest in sex, in me . I spent many years trying to ignite his passion , only to be rejected time and time again, over time he has made me feel embarrassed about sex, I'm not allowed to text him any sexy messages , he isn't interested in sexy underwear, sex toys or anything. Me and my ex used to plan most evenings around chatting , laughing  having  sex, massages etc , and he made me feel desirable . However my new partner has taken all my confidence away and I hate him for it. I've now got fat and feel ashamed of my body and have so many hang ups , I no longer even think about sex. But in my heart and soul I feel alone, empty and sad that I am now in a sexless relationship. I avoid any close contact with my man, but miss feeling loved and giving love . What should I do ? 
Quote
familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. Have you tried speaking about this with your partner. Explain how you feel and how its affecting your relationship. Couples counselling could be helpful if your partner is willing, Relate is an organisation that provides such counselling. You may find it helpful to read our articles on family life. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
Quote