Jess
Long story short... 

Daughters father abused us up until she was 5/6 .. (she is now 9) 
I tried to get her help years ago because she was becoming violent and aggressive.  Nobody helped us. 

Now, after 2.5 years of not seeing him or him having any part in her life,  she has now started having contact (because courts didnt believe me despite all professional reports) 

She is now becoming violent and aggressive towards me, threatening to hurt me etc and calling me a liar because her dad has been telling her that I've lied about everything and that 'it's ok to hurt people because its just a game' 

It's a repeat of what happened earlier in her life, and I don't know what to do about it.
I can't go through this again,but no-one is believing me. 

She is really horrible to me and it feels like she is abusing me in similar ways her dad did. And, I feel like I don't want her bringing me down anymore.
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult, upsetting and troubling situation. It's important to challenge this behaviour and tell her that hurting people is wrong, even if she doesn't believe or refuses to, it's important to be the opposing voice. I understand that you're in a vulnerable position so these suggestions are about protecting yourself while finding ways to help your daughter. Have you been in contact with Social Services? They're not just there to remove children from their families, they're there to support families, you can read about them here. If you do want to contact them you can do that through calling your local council and getting their extension number. You can also contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247, as they might have more specialised advice. Women's Aid is another similar organisation, they have an instant chat service and email services. You may find it helpful to read our articles on challenging behaviour.  If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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