Where do I start...I’ve been with my wife for 29 years (married 12),we have 2 grown up children and 2 younger children that live with us
 Believe it or not we have never argued,I worship the ground she walks upon,I treat her as a queen,up until nov I thought everything was perfect 
last year my wife went through a hysterectomy and now has HRT
She now says she longer loves me,she cries as she doesn’t know why ,she refuses to accept it may be the hysterectomy,she wants to separate but not hurt me...she says marriage guidance would be a waste of time,we’re pretending everything is okish for the kids whilst sleeping in separate bedrooms...I can’t stop crying (I’m 49,I haven’t cried since I was 13) life without her would be empty and lonely...she is the only woman I have declared my love to and the only woman I will ever love
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. You're not inside her head and as such cannot know why, if she says she doesn't know then maybe you could accept that her feelings have changed and move from there. Perhaps giving her some time and space would be helpful, maybe she could stay with a friend or relative for a day or two depending on your home life of course. You may find it helpful to read our articles on divorce and separation. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.