Hi all,


So last September, my wife and I separated, it wasn't fun but I thought we could remain friends and amicable. As the year went on it became apparent this would not be the case. A lot of what was the downfall of our relationship came to light and angered and disappointed me greatly, a lot of lies, deception and manipulation. She has made my life increasingly difficult with my new partner which I can't abide by, shes tried using my kids are weapons and continued to manipulate me.

I have applied for mediation and put together a parenting agreement, I am desperate to implicate more routine, structure and boundaries so I can move on and have as little to do with her as possible. I want my children to be happy and to know they are loved, not be forced into a childish adult situation being used as pawns in a silly game to get one over.

Is there anything else anyone would recommend?




Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. Child Law Advice may be a useful resource for you, their website has an extensive archive on the law surrounding children. You can call them, but they may ask you to book a call and you will be charged for the call, on 0300 330 5480. You may find it helpful to read our articles on divorce and separation. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.