Kim Roberts
It's a very long story, I'll keep it as short as possible. I agreed to let my 11yo son  live with his dad 3 miles away from me. He sold up with no forwarding address and moved school 90 miles away making my time with my son extremely difficult, our time together dwindled down to nothing and ended in my son hating me, blocking my numbers. He has been in contact with a family members and wants to see me. This has come completely unexpected. How can I deal with this? I am seeing him next, he has been hearing bad oppions about me all this time and I believe he was believing everything. Now that his home dynamic has changed and he is struggling to emotionally deal with it, how can I support him? Is there a way of getting a mediator/support person to be there for when I meet him? He has been through too much. I don't know what pressures he is dealing with living with his father.  Any advice would be much appreciated 🙏 
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Jason Shaw jay3779
Hi Kim, it would be good to get someone to support you .. a level headed friend or relative. I know my daughter's grandmother is always good at asking the questions I don't. There's a useful chapter in a book I recommend by Richard A Warshak (Divorce Poision). A friend is always better than a book however! 
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult situation. Just try to be there for your son and if he has questions for you answer them and let him make up his own mind about you. You can get mediation, but you may have to pay and I'm not entirely sure that they do mediation between child and parent, perhaps visiting The Family Mediators Association website might help. There may be more information that might help you on the Child Law Advice website. You may also find it helpful to read our articles on divorce and separation. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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Kim Roberts
I met up with him last Wednesday afternoon, I collected him and drove to a local café where we could talk. When he got out of the car he gave me the biggest hug. Anyway, it went well and what he initially wanted going forward was to keep in touch via WhatsApp, a definite call on Thursdays at 7pm and whenever else over and above that if he wanted. I called him on Thursday as planned, he didn't answer but he was on line. I messaged to say that I had called, no replys. I messed on yesterday morning ask if I could call back in the evening, he replied saying he was out. So I said let me know when is best for you, no reply. This morning I found out that I have been blocked again! I withheld my number called him, as soon as he heard my voice he hung up. I don't know what happened for getting out of my car last week to now. 
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is upsetting and confusing. Obviously you have no way of knowing what's happened between your last contact and now, but all we can say is keep trying but don't smother your son. He may come around eventually. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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