shellypop40
So my sons  been at his new school for 5 months now, he is starting to get allowed into the boys games at playtime etc which is uplifting. However he comes home most days very deflated and even says he thinks all the teachers hate him, bar one. He said his class teacher shouted so loud at him for not completing enough work that he was physically shaking and another time he said he cried quietly onto his page. At the end of the lesson she asked why he was crying and he said because he doesn't like it when a teacher shouts so loud at him. She brushed over it telling him it wasnt loud. He is such a helpful polite positive boy, and I feel the teacher is only interacting with him to tell him off, he says she never chooses him to be star if the week, when at his old school he was regularly chosen . Everyday I drop him off it breaks my heart, what should I do, what can I do? 
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Laban

How awful for both of you!! Have you made an appointment with the teacher to talk about your concerns? Or if theres another child he’s particularly friendly with who they could perhaps arrange a buddy system with to help get him more involved or strengthen his confidence?

I know from my sons school that I was also getting annoyed about the star of the week situation! I would certainly see what the teachers thoughts are about what’s happening in class and the crying incident! If you’re not happy take it to the head! Good luck xx 

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shellypop40
Thank you, parents evening is next week, so I will try to mention it to his teacher, its difficult because I don't want to make the situation any worse,  but equally I do think his teacher needs to be aware of how he feels. I don't think she is targeting my son, I think it's just her way, personally I think shouting at children is not effective and honestly very old fashioned. Thanks for your help x
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. If your son is so anxious during school that he bursts out crying then something is definitely wrong and you should talk to the school about it. We suggest that you obtain a copy of the school's anti-bullying policy and their complaints policy, both of which they are required to provide you with by law. You can cite these when talking to the school and as  a guide to help you through this situation. You may find it helpful to read our articles about bullying at school and children at school. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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