Luna
Hi there,


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My daughter the last few months is been so terrible with me and my husband, specially with me because I am who set the boundaries, show us the consequence of her attitudes, tell off, tell her what to do and how to do. Rarely my husband agree with me, recently he is trying to support me but still a little, and it does not make difference. As most of the children she is manipulated, she know what she gets from dad, she does a lot of drama when he is at home, with me the situation is completely different, I say no and that's all.
Recently we had a conversation about her behaviour ( she keeps talking back to us, too much argumentative )and she confess to us that she would like to born from different family, her friends at school are like her parents, she feels free with them ( that's  normal and acceptable)but she feels unhappy with us, I know why because I have been - after a while talking and explaining that it is not fair her disrespect with us- cancel her play dates - 😔
The worst is I know the problem, my husband, he is not firm with her at all, it is much easy he blames me instead to talk with her. I do not remember the last time he told her off.
I am not expected my husband to have the same behaviour at least to support me.
😢I am exhausted, sad and worried about my daughter future, my family.
I need help, my husband needs help them we can help our child.
       
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult situation. Maybe talking to your husband in an honest way about how you feel will help you both be on the same page with your daughter. Talking back and being argumentative are very normal behaviours for children of her age, and if she feels like you're stopping her from having fun then of course she's not going to like you. Dealing with the times when your child doesn't like you is something that all parents go through. I'm sure you understand that being consistent with your boundaries and discipline is the most effective course of action, which I understand is hard when your husband isn't on the same page as you. You may find it helpful to read our articles on child behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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Luna
Thank you so much for the words...I have been talking in an honest way with my husban for almost 3/4 years😢
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familylives
I understand, I know it's difficult to get someone to see things the way you do. Perhaps if you keep trying things will change eventually. I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help, I hope things get better soon. 
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Luna
I hope the same, I am trying to get help with a professional in meanwhile I keep thinking positively.A big thank you for your words.  
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