Rebecca-Anne
Hi I’m a single parent to my 5 year old daughter, I have been since before my daughter was born, her father didn’t want anything to do with us, I’ve had lots of support from my family, I have always tired to keep my daughter into a routine, I’ve always tired to show my daughter structure, early this year her father got in contact and wanted to start seeing her, which I agreed to as I think it’s important for a child to have a father in there life’s, my daughters fathers mother and father has always seen her, I agreed for my daughters dad to go round to his mother and fathers house to build a bond with him, it was going well, and now my daughter stays over her dads house and they seem to have connected a bond apart from the loving side of things but I think that will take time, the past few weeks I have been picking my daughter up from school and I’ve been getting pulled into the class and the teacher is tell me that my daughter is pinching other children, so I sit down and talk to my daughter and she says she doesn’t no why she’s doing it, the next day I get called into the class again and she’s bitten another child, I’ve tired to sit down and talk to my daughter I’ve taken her treats away such a iPad, I’ve even asked the schools headmaster to speak with my daughter which they have done, but that doesn’t even seem to bother her, I’m looking for advice on how to deal with her behavior as normally she’s such a good girl and always helps mummy, I’ve tired talking to her but that’s not working, taking treats away, setting a behavior chart up, she doesn’t quite no how to express her feelings if something is bothering her, as I know this is really out of character for her, and I don’t want to keep getting pulled into the class room and being told she has hurt another child again. Any advice on how to deal with this situation would be great. Thankyou 
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult situation. It's always difficult to figure out where behaviour like this is coming from, I understand that you've tried speaking to her, but maybe re-word the questions since she seems to have issues talking about it. Did the other child do something that upset her, has something changed that she doesn't like (in any situation i.e. at home or with her father or at school)? Make it as clear as possible that it is not okay to act this way, that she wouldn't like it if someone else did those things to her. Unfortunately, discipline may not work at first but finding the one that works with your child can take time and it's great that you're keeping at it. You may find it helpful to read our articles on childhood behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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