Hello, I'm the oldest sister in my family and have always hated my little brother (12).
I want him gone, sometimes I seriously want to hurt him or for him to suffer. I've never been able to stop doing this. He's physically unattractive and doesn't take care of himself.
Bug eyed, unmanaged cowlicks everywhere, all teeth bent outward. He never brushes his teeth or uses deodorant.
He has ADHD, but my mother doesn't give him his medicine because he puts up such a fit.
He cries over everything and I'm sick of it. He can't share anything with our youngest brother. Yells all the time and won't stop making noise. I'm more of a studious type and he isn't smart at all. Yet he treats me like I'm an idiot because I'm female. He struggles with all his subjects and can barely write. He also can't stop copying people. He listens to my favorite songs on repeat, as loud as he can and will not stop referencing media I enjoy. I like to be an individual and can't stand that. He acts scared and baby-like for attention, and climbs all over my dog as a result. If he died, I would be happy. I know I need to change that attitude, but how?
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult situation for you, but have you considered looking at things from his point of view? Here are some things to consider: have you learnt anything about ADHD on your own? Have you tried to help your parents with your brother? Why do you care whether he's attractive or not, that has nothing to do with you and doesn't hurt you, it comes across as very shallow. Do you think he actively chooses to do these things to annoy you or are you willing to consider that these are typical behaviours of someone with ADHD? These are very uncharitable views and show a lack of patience and tolerance for someone with a developmental issue. Maybe you could go to counselling and discuss these extreme thoughts with someone, depending on your age, you can contact The Mix. The Mix are an organisation that helps young people with whatever issues they may be facing, you can call them on 0808 808 4994. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or contact us through our live chat service which is open, Monday to Friday between 1.30pm and 5.30pm or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.