Maryam23
Hi,

My youngest is 16 years old and is going through the dreaded teenage years.

Currently he is having a strop because I said no to buying him a £180 football kit. To which he said he found a cheaper one for £130 but I said that's still too much.

He said he feels stressed because of his upcoming GCSE exams and has nothing to do because I've taken his playstation off him (he spent over 5 hours a day playing on it).

I helped him make a revision timetable so that revises an hour a day and 4 hours on weekends. He has plenty of free time for TV, use his computer and goes badminton on weekends but still says he's bored and feels frustrated that I'm not buying him the kit for football. I told him he can go football but I'm not paying for the kit.

I think he has enough luxury with a TV and computer but he obviously doesn't and keeps guilt tripping me by saying we're poor. So I feel I have to buy him things so he doesn't feel that.

He has £320 in his savings which he got as birthday money two weeks ago. He says he wants to use that but I said no. I told him that was for him to use after his exams to go out with friends and to buy clothes for college. And also to use it towards driving lessons as he wants to start lessons as soon as he's 17.

Just the past couple of months his daid bought him a phone for £150. I bought him playstation coins for £80, his sister paid £40 for his coins too. And he bought fifa 20 for £50. He's spent over £300 on things I would class as luxury.

Am I being harsh? I can't tell anymore.
Would appreciate some advice please. Thank you!
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familylives
Hi, I understand that you're having trouble. You're not being harsh, you're being reasonable. Teenagers often get bored, you can always tell him to do something else other than buy a football kit, there's plenty of things out there. He needs to learn that he can't get everything the instant he wants it or how is he going to behave when he's in charge of his own money? You may find it helpful to read our articles on teenage behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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