I am the youngest of 3 an for the longest I can remember my mother an sister have had a rocky relationship..  I had mad it my life's mission to try to make them talk, always ends in arguing, so I have left it alone. That is one of the reasons why now I don't like this season, as I feel like I have to choose.. 

We all live separately, an my sister lives the pritty far away woth her husband an son, an my mother has already offered me to stay at hers over Christmas, then only a few hours ago my sister has told that her husband has been rush in to hospital as the cancer has returned an she's asked if I can come help her with my newphew, as he is goin to be in over Christmas.. of course this should be a no brainer, we all go up to her.. But it will end up in arguments.. So now I am in a situation an I don't know what to do
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult situation. However, it sounds as though you're all adults, just explain the situation and where you want to stay to the other person and they'll just have to deal with it. I understand that you don't want to upset anyone or be involved in any arguments, but it sounds like it's going to be unavoidable. Situations like this are often unavoidable as we get further into adulthood. You can try your best to get them to understand your decision, but whatever happens after that you can just know that you tried and remove yourself from the situation and tell them that you're not going to argue with them. I understand that it's hard especially during the holidays, so try not to put too much pressure on yourself about it as it sounds like they're the ones that have the issue. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.