lost20
I do not know what to do. We have had a VERY strained household relationship for sometime....years. Myself -my husband- son 20 and daughter 23. Now with Covid 19 the stress levels are sky high. My husband is still working. I am in Furlough. My daughter with her boyfriend, my son back from Uni; that he has now decided to leave, in his second year.
My husband has sky high levels of stress and worries, and does not deal with it well. My son and he do not have a great relationship and cannot talk properly at all without argument. My daughter has given up trying to put her point over to him and trying to make my husband understand. She has mental health issues.
Last night things blew up with my son and husband over moving something; it would have come to blows if i had not been there. It was horrible. My son totally lost it and was swearing at his dad, they had their hands on each other. 

What next, we cant escape  for space anywhere, for a few days because of lockdown. I talked to my son this morning for over an hour, trying to understand where it came from??
i just feel lost
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. It's great that you're trying to talk to everyone and understand where they're coming from. The current situation makes these sorts of situations just that much harder to deal with and you've done great just mediating. Perhaps, since your husband is so stressed, he could try counselling to talk through what how he's feeling with someone who isn't in the situation. He could get a referral from his GP or through the NHS website. Everyone needs time to themselves for various reasons and the lockdown has exasperated this, maybe you could try to have separate time to diffuse tensions. Go for walks at separate times, do an activity separately and so on. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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