Crowther
Hi. I’m suffering from anxiety and depression due to a bad time with my husband. We have been together 18 years and married for 10. About 4 months ago he said he wants his life to be different, more freedom, more friends etc. He then started texting a female ‘friend’ from work. He initially hid this from me by changing all his passwords, turning if message notifications etc. I finally found out and he said he hid it because he knew how I’d react. Whilst I know nothing physical has happened he has been regularly texting her photos of food he has cooked/eaten, wine he’s drinking, quotes from books he’s reading. Whilst on holiday with our 3 sons I found out that she had sent him at least 50 photos of what she was doing, food, drinks (as well as her basting a chicken!!) over the space of 16 days. I don’t know what texts went with these photos as he refuses to tell me. Am I right to feel angry and jealous? I feel like I’m going crazy
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familylives
I understand that this is a difficult situation. Have you spoken to your husband about the nature of these messages? Does your relationship feel different now that he's talking with this person? Do you feel like he's putting more effort into his relationship with her than his relationship with you and your family? You're well within your right to feel how you feel, but people do often send their friends pictures of what they're doing and message quite often, it depends on the kind of friendship. Since we aren't a part of this relationship, we cannot make a judgement on the relationship. Communication is key and talking to your husband about how you feel may help with what you're going through. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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