Diana88
Can a family truly recover from domestic abuse?
My husband have been physically violent to me and just promised to attend a workshop for healthier boundaries and relationship with me and our son. But can that really work out?

I seek divorce as soon as I have enough funds, as I can't risk this to happen again.
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult, troubling and upsetting situation. Whatever you do is up to you. Do you feel that he could change? Do you want to stick around to find out? How will that affect your son? You may find it helpful to contact the National Domestic Abuse Hotline on 0808 2000 247. You can also contact Women's Aid through their live chat service or their e-mail service which you can find on their website. You may find it helpful to read our articles on divorce and separation. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or contact us through our live chat service which is open, Monday to Friday between 1.30pm and 5.30pm or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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snoopy71
Frankly I don't believe any man who physically abuses his wife can change through counselling alone, such behaviour is inherent and is unlikely to change regardless.  You have to ask yourself if you can bear to continue living with the very person who is there to love you and keep you safe while offering you nothing but violence. Sure, there may be respite and there certainly will be a lot of contrition that may even persuade you otherwise, but the only answer in my mind is you have to go separate ways.  And yes, happiness after divorce is entirely possible when you fully realise that not all men are abusive and a future great relationship is entirely possible. I might just add that you can also work on yourself, and while not laying any blame to your own behaviour, you can at least be aware if you allowed any triggers for the abuse.  MY own wife suffered years of physical abuse and now fully realises ( and has found ) that happiness can be restored. But yes, it's a two way thing as well! Good luck for the future!  ðŸ˜‰
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