My 15yr old daughter behaviour has been uncontrollable for several years.
she swears at myself and her step dad and I witness her doing spiteful things to her 4yr old brother on a daily basis, which I think is effecting his behaviour and development.
On a monthly basis she will lash out and hit me. She sits in the living room and makes everyone feel as though we shouldn’t be in there and when she kicks off, she refuses to go to her room. 
The only way to get her there is to physically drag her which then turns into a fight, so now I just leave her. 
I have two older children who love her dearly but say she is completely unruly and disrespectful and don’t want to spend much time with her. 
She seems as though she gets on well with her peers at school but I do believe she actually finds everyone and everything annoying and is completely exhausted by the end of the day when she comes home after having to fit in and then the awful behaviour starts again. 
My two closest friends spent time with her recently and even though she gets on well with them they said that she has a very controlling and manipulative personality.
i love my daughter to pieces but I really don’t like her and am so worried what the future holds for her. I feel it is my love and duty to care and raise my daughter until she hopefully goes to university but to be honest I don’t know if I can take much more. 
Unfortunately all our family live too far away so we only get to see them a few times each year and everyone has made it clear they don’t want her living with them. 
I don’t know how things can improve 😔
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. Unfortunately, a lot of parents go through what you're going through. Have you tried talking to her on her level and trying to understand where she's coming from while also explain how this behaviour is unacceptable? If her behaviour is so extreme, Social Services can help, they're not just there to deal with abuse, they are a service made to support families. You can read more about them in our article here.You may find it helpful to read our articles on teenage behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.