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Hi can anyone help i need some advice on where i stand as a parent on my daughter who is a young adult of 19yrs.She took off last week to meet aboyfriend we never knew she had .He has 2 children from a previous relationship so we were concerned.She txted my wife a adress on where she was staying so i contacted his parents via the internet just to see if she was there and safe .Her boyfriends parents thought we knew she was dateing there son and said that he lived with them but they were not there but in a hotel somewhere for few days and not to worry as there son was a nice lad.However my daughter came home after her trip away saying she was leaveing our house and staying with a friend she took her belongings trashed her bedroom and tried to assault my wife. At the time i was at work and left no adress or nothing so we dont no her whereabouts or if shes safe.Shes due back at uni in a cple weeks so as parents we are worried shes wrecking her life the way shes behaveing.
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. However, your daughter is now legally an adult and free to do however she pleases. You can try to contact her and ask her what's going on and why she didn't tell you about this boyfriend, talk to her about university and what she wants her future to look like. You can't make her do anything but you can try to talk to her and do your best. You may find it helpful to read our articles on teenagers. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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familylives
Hi again, it's really unfortunate that she's decided to cut contact. You could try to contact the university to ask if she's attending, however as she's an adult they are within their right to withhold that information from you as it may be protected under privacy policies. Beyond getting the police involved, and as she's an adult there won't be a lot they can do besides a wellness check as far as we're aware (we are not legally trained and as such cannot give legal advice), there isn't much more you can do. Perhaps contact any of her friends you might know of? Unfortunately, she's an adult now and these are her decisions to make, it may just be a case of waiting for her to come to you, which I understand is difficult and obviously not what you want to be doing. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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