My partner lives with myself and my son, we have his 3 daughters every other weekend.
Im really starting to get upset that all the details and arrangements for when his daughter come to stay are discussed and decided without any involvement or consultation with me. I’ve mentioned that I’ve started to feel excluded a little particularly as I’m sometimes told on the day or just the day before if plans just a days/ times change by quite a bit. I’ve tried to roll with it but it does bother me. I’ve told him this and had a big reaction from him. He thinks I’m controlling or don’t want the girls to come, which isn’t true.
its possibly that it’s how I’m explaining myself and maybe I am overreacting but I think of myself as co-caring and that it’s OUR weekend with them so I’d like to have the courtesy of being consulted even tho I would disagree with his plans.
When I mention it he seems to overreact and get angry that he feels he has to ask my permission to see his daughters whi he misses terribly. How do I get him to see that it’s not about me giving permission, just wanting to be kept in the loop and not feel so excluded?
I feel really lost !