Help. I’m at a complete loss on what to do now! My daughter is 14 and has been struggling for well over a year with mental health issues. Last jan she was self harming, then she locked herself away for weeks on end. She’s been to see counsellors, group therapy, camhs. But at the moment she’s so utterly disgusted with the way she looks that she has a bath with a jumper on. She’s so sad, then angry then happy (when she’s with friends) I’ve tried everything and nothing has helped. She’s frequently suicidal, telling me she wants to die. Help me please?! Where do I go from here?

I know how your daughter is feeling trust me body dismorphia is awful I’m 33 now but when I was 14 I got addicted to the gym and threw up all the time as my boyfriend told me I was fat! I used to bath in bleach a lot Aswell...This has affected me a lot I often get paranoid people are judging my looks so my solution is to hide behind tattoos and make up and trying to look the best I can all the time I explain this to people and they always say your a beautiful girl why do that lol well they don’t see what I see it’s an illness I hate the fact people have to look at me....that came from a comment! To this day I hate how I look and nobody will ever change my head as it’s an illness and it’s understated as you look ok but inside your not you look good as if you don’t then your vulnerable in your head.... 

if I was you I would scrap the group therapy as people together can influence each other easily and you don’t want that as for one to one counselling my opinion wasn’t worth my time as they said the same As anyone would say your a beautiful looking girl how can you think that do you know how frustrating that is lol 

im just going by what your describing regarding the mood swings and “happy with friends” then emotions like anger suicidal thoughts are you sure she’s not on drugs as they make you ashamed of your body and do things like bath In my case bleach if that’s the case that’s hundred per cent drug related I know I took amphetamines to lose weight and it’s a nasty come down all the symptoms you describe sound like it but I’m no doctor or expert but I know drug induced psychosis

if that’s the case research speed, base, fet whatever its all the same and don’t judge or yell or whatever as she will not trust you let her tell you herself and tell her your proud and she is better than that and I know people cut it with all sorts now it’s dangerous and to the point I don’t bother with it anymore.....

regardless of opinions only you know what you know and it’s you that has to believe in her and you are proud of her and let her talk without judgement or anger......

I hope that helps 


Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. We would suggest that you contact CAMHS and anyone else involved in her care and explain how troubled you are by her behaviour. You could contact Young Minds, they're an organisation that helps families in a similar situation to yourself, you can call them on 0808 802 5544. It's important that you remain to be there for her in a non-judgmental way. You may find it helpful to read our articles on teenage health and wellbeing. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.