Hello, I have a 16 / almost 17 month old daughter, and she has huge tantrums.

She is particularly clingy with me, when others are around and if they try to interact or cuddle her she arches her back, cries, bites, hits, headbuts both herself and others, she also throws toys or hits things that are by her. 

Sometimes she does this for no reason, so will be playing then will start pulling her hair or hitting things. 

We have tried to remove her and distract when it happens, which doesn't work, unless she is with me, then she stops almost instantly, and we have tried a firm No and ignoring it, but nothing seems to be working.

Shs has done this for a couple of months. 

She isn't walking, but she crawls, stands, sofa crawls etc, and is walking holding one hand of ours, just not independently, yet she is alert and bright in every other way. 

I've mentioned to HV and they said it's a girl thing, but I just need to speak to others who can share any information on this? I have a 5 year old son and he was the opposite to her, and still is chilled and content. 
Thank you xx
Hi, I understand that this is a troubling situation. If you find the Health Visitor's explanation unsatisfactory then we suggest that you talk to your GP about her behaviour. She is approaching two and they're called the 'terrible twos' for a reason, it could simply be a phase. If you haven't already, talk to other parents about the situation, talk to your parents about it. You may find it helpful to read our articles on challenging behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
I think maybe try your gp and see if they will do a referral to the child development clinic  after being through something similar with my youngest daughter this is the route I took then a child pediatrician can take note of your concerns and access your daughter let you know if anything to worry about and also refer you to any other services if you need them  a health visitor can also do this referral i think also at 2 there is a 2 year development check with the health visitor girls are more  stroppy separation anxiety is common at this age too which causes the clingyness