Hi Everyone
I am new to the website but in desperate need of support,help and advice. 

Recently my 4 year old has started "spitting" towards others. The reasons behind it are mainly if he is feeling frustrated/angry. 
If he is playing rough and tumble and it gets abit to much for him.. my husband and i have used time out, taking toys away.. you name it we have tried it. 
Iat the park today, walking home, a mother and her child walked past, my son turned back towards them and spat. ( the parent and child didnt have any idea about it but that isnt the point - this was for no reason, unprovoked behaviour) 

I am starting a reward chat as of tomorrow. He understands what ia expected of him. 

I just really need some advice on what else i could do? 

Im in tears.most nights. Normally he is a good little boy, funny caring etc and then will just have these sudden outbursts that are over in seconds
Im petrified as he starts school ( reception) in september ! 
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. Have you explained as simply as possible why spitting is not reasonable or nice behaviour? Trying different forms of discipline and finding what fits is a great start, I understand that it can be frustrating struggling to find something that works but stick with it. You may find it helpful to read our articles on challenging behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call us on our freephone helpline 0808 800 2222.