Miniminxcat
Please can someone give me some help or advice on what to do with my 8 year old daughter. For several years now I’ve tried to put her behaviour down to it being “her age” but I just don’t think we can carry on like this anymore. She is very destructive, drawing on walls, clothing, herself, asking for Lego (then saying she cannot do it and asking for help, which then turns into someone else doing it for her while she goes off) then when the Lego is complete she destroys it. Gifts that have been brought for her played with for a few seconds then discarded around the house, no care for items that are brought for her. She has a 12 year old brother who she is constantly arguing with. During current times they are both at home doing home schooling. I don’t have much of a chance to help my son as she is demanding so much of my time, and when I do spend time with my son she is off in destruct mode. The way she speaks to me and my son is disgraceful too, I’ve tried reward charts, taking tv / iPad away but nothing seems to work. I am on my own a single parent with my only support being my parents who are shielding so cannot help me. Can anyone give me some advice please? 
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Jason Shaw jay3779
Hi, is there anyone outside the immediate family (aunt, grandparent etc) she can confide in? I often ask my mother (my daughter's grandma) to discretely ask about anything that might be the matter. This works especially at bedtime or when I'm out. Hope this helps.
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. You could discuss this behaviour with your GP, they might refer your daughter for assessment. Sticking with discipline and being consistent is important, depending on how long you tried each method, you may not have given her enough time to truly learn the lesson. Have you explained why this behaviour is unacceptable to her? Have you asked her why she acts this way? When asking be specific and phrase it in a simple way where she can easily grasp the concepts you're discuss. You may find it helpful to read our articles on child behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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