Hi there,
I have 2 under 5's with my husband and he has a 10 year old from his previous marriage.
Earlier this year my stepson reported me to his school, saying I had thrown one of his toys at one of the younger children and that he no longer felt safe coming to our house, I didn't throw anything at my children and had to explain this to social services as they were involved because of the nature of the accusation. After all this my stepson started saying that the teacher he spoke to got it wrong and that's not what he said and my husband doesn't feel it right to say that he must be lying and my husband has excepted his son saying that if he did say those things about me then he didn't mean too and thinks I should just get over it and include him in the family again.
For the pass few months my husband has been seeing his son outside of the house and also taking his brothers to see him, which they have enjoyed, where as before all this our boys didn't enjoy his visits as there were always lots of arguments between them and I have found his visits very stressful over the past few years because of all the arguing between the boys and also our younger boys are very good eaters but my stepson is very fussy and will refuse to eat things.
I have also just suffered the loss of my stepmum and I'm trying to deal with all the emotions I am feeling about that but feel like my husband is now trying to pressure me into dealing with bringing his son back into the family home and it's all stressing me, I just don't know what to do.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and obviously stressful situation for you. Have you explained to your husband how you're stressed right now and feel as though you're being pressured, good communication is important. Eventually, when you're ready, it may be good to try and build your own relationship with your stepson and try to get to the bottom of this behaviour. You or your husband may find it helpful to talk to your stepson about how he feels about coming to your home and you yourself. You may find it helpful to read our articles on step-families. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222