shellypop40
So I will try and keep this simple , I've been with my partner for 8 years we have a 7 year old son . My partner is a man's man , who can be verbally very hurtful to me . Anyway we were sharing a sun lounger together for a few minutes on Friday , he laying down and me sat at the foot end , so I playfully tickled his toes, only for him to use both feet to push me off the lounger , I literally couldn't stop him , I wasn't prepared for it and I ended up with grazed hands and knees and back pain  not to mention I broke the line prop that I'd grabbed onto to try and stop the fall , so at the time my partner said he was sorry and he hadn't realised that I was so close to the edge etc . Although I felt hurt and humiliated I let it go , however the following day my back pain was still bad so I mentioned it to my partner who now says I am over playing it, attention seeking and making something out of nothing . To my mind he is basically not sorry at all , because he wouldn't accuse me off over playing it ,, also he said these insults Infront of our son , thus setting a bad example of how to treat people etc . Am I reading too much into this , or is my partner kind of abusing me ? 
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. If it feels like abuse then it most likely is. Undermining someone, minimising their pain or something hurtful you've done to them is abusive. Abuse can be verbal, it doesn't have to have a physical element to be considered abuse. You may find the National Domestic Abuse Helpline helpful, there's a lot of information on their website and they have a 24-hour helpline you can call on 0808 2000 247. Women's Aid is a similar organisation, they offer an instant chat service, e-mail service and have a forum. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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