Quick backstory, I have an 8 year old son. Been with my now husband since son was 3. We have daughter, 2. 
My son is literally horrible to my husband. He has said the meanest things and generally goes against everything he says. Its caused so many problems and arguments between us. I cannot get a handle on the way he is with his stepdad. I've tried being nice and positive praise. Ive tried coming down hard. Nothing sinks in. Hes having counselling through school about his behaviour and the lies he makes up. But it's too late, my husband and me are now at the point of separating because we argue so much about how it should be handled and the fact it keeps happening. It's at the point where they both openly dont like each other. Its wore me down so much. Any one got any suggestions? Or been in a similar situation.
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. Have you asked your son why he behaves like this, getting to the bottom of his behaviour is important. It's great that he's at counselling and hopefully that brings about some results. If as an adult your partner cannot handle a child's bad behaviour and allows it to effect your relationship then that might be something to think about considering it seems that you have  a daughter with him. You may find it helpful to read our articles on child behaviour and divorce and separation. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.