We are experiencing challenging behaviour from my 8 year old son for some time now. He seems to be a sensitive child who since he was little have been very sensitive to different smells and always commenting on this. He loves music and can sing and perform all day long, however everything always have to be really loud. He is very impulsive and is in overdrive until he goes to bed. He can be very tactile, often looking for physical closeness.Similar to Poppy 38 who posted about her 6 year old, he has become increasingly rude and disrespectful over the last year or so. He will get extremely angry and call us names. We too have tried everything, i.e. stay calm, use rewards, send him to his room, spending quality time. He cannot cope at all with doing school work at home and will go out of his way to hurt and annoy his 10 year old sister and have regular meltdowns throughout the day, crying and saying he is tired when he had about 10/11 hours sleep. It is starting to affect our family live. I have been using emotion coaching and try to voice what he might be experiencing, but at times his behaviour seems uncontrollable and like he cannot stop himself. He is a clever boy who has no difficulties academically. Any advice will be helpful. Thank you!
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. If your child is having behavioural problems then perhaps you might want to discuss them with your GP, they might refer him for assessment. When these situations arise, do you ask him what's bothering him? Being tired can be a sign of more than just needing to sleep, maybe he's emotionally tired and doesn't have the vocabulary to explain that, having meltdowns can really tire you out. It's important to be consistent when using discipline, so perhaps try one thing out for a week or two and see how that goes. You may find it helpful to read our articles on child behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.