Poppy38
I'm new to the forum but need help with my 6 year old daughter. Her character has always been strong willed and stubborn but her behaviour has been getting worse during the past year and is out of control since lockdown.  She is disrespectful to myself and her dad (shouts, screams, meltdowns, bad language, hitting) and refuses to do any school work (has always done well in school with no issues) or anything we ask of her without argument. Even just going for a walk results in conflict. We've tried removing privileges, talking to her calmly, sending to room etc but nothing seems to get through to her and I'm at a loss as to how to deal with the situation when she kicks off. Any suggestions welcomed! 
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and troubling situation. When you're talking to her what questions do you ask or are you simply telling her that what she's doing is bad? Do you explain why her behaviour is bad? Perhaps ask her why she's reacting this way, if there's anything else bothering her, it's a difficult time for everyone and children may not entirely understand why they have to stay inside or may become anxious and act out because of the current situation. It's important to be consistent with your discipline, so that it sticks, maybe try just one kind and stick to it for a week or two. You may find it helpful to read our articles on child behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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AEM23
We are having very similar issues with our 8 year old daughter. As the weeks in lockdown go on she is getting worse and worse. She doesn't want to do much home schooling and when I ask her to do some, it just results in huge arguements over every little thing now. Are there any councellors availabel to talk to children ?.. her school isn't taking any children back yet, so she will no doubt be at home until September now. She is angry and throws stuff around. I have an 11 year old trying to do her work and the 8 year old just disrupts her all the time. I am working at home also! Any help much appreciated. 
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Holly34
Poppy38 You have described our 6 year old daughter to a T! 
Everything we want to do with her to cheer her up or get her out of the house results in a huge tantrum. I try and think of fun activities for us and as soon as we are 2 mins in she starts getting frustrated and annoyed about something and it errupts. 
She was a star pupil at school and clearly needs routine and mental and physical stimulation everyday to feel happy. I understand she's so bored but it's so hard under lockdown, plus I'm recovering from a c section and trying to regain control after being in hospital and out of action so to speak.  I'm planning things to do tomor and will makesure she gets out for a huge walk with me. It all just grinds you down when you can't seem to make the behaviour change.
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