Hi I am new to the forum and I am looking for some opinions from others, me and my ex split over 2 years ago we have a great 50 / 50 set up with my son ( I'm dad ) he has now started school near to where she lives and my old town is around 50 minutes away so before he started school I sold my house and moved to about 15 minutes away from his school I am currently renting the house it is all sorted and he is settled.

The issue is that all my family are in my old home town, sisters nephews all within a year of my son they had just started to get a really good relationship, they fight as boys do but they also loved playing together, at the weekends we do visit and they have visited us but it just does not feel the same and when he is not with me my friends are in the old town so it can be a little isolated, my commute has also gone from 50 minutes a day to 3 hours a day due to traffic in the location.

So my question is did I do the right thing ? I would do anything for my son and I want him to have the best life possible I feel that family and connections we had back home maybe more important, in the week by the time i get out of work we get home for around 6:30pm so its near time for bed and back to school in the morning,

Currently I do Sunday to Wednesday and every other Saturday -     I am wondering now if changing this to weekends would work better so pick up from school on Friday as I finish early and keep him until Monday morning dropping him at school if this was an option then I would move back to my old town. I have still to run this past his mum but I would like some views of anyone else on the issue, its quite hard to pick the right solution as not many people are in this situation, I know some don't mind seeing their kids every other weekend but for me I think this is not great if you can help it.

thanks for all replies 

Hi, I understand that this is a difficult situation. It's great that you put your son first and made the decision to see as much of him as you can. We can't tell you whether you made the right decision or not, only you have enough of the details to decide, but if you think about it and weigh the pros and cons, how do you find yourself feeling? If this is something you feel like make things easier for everyone and bring your family closer, then speaking with your ex-partner/your son's mother will be for the best. It's also important to involve your son and see how he feels about the situation too. You may find it helpful to read our articles on divorce and separation. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.