Cristal
Our daughter turned 15 in August and has become more rebellious and aggressive when she speaks to us.  She shouts and screams about anything we ask her, throws things, slams doors, saying we are trying to control her life whether it’s about homework or social life/friends. 
Shes started telling lies about where she is and who with and we are worried for her safety.  We’ve tried all sorts of strategies and negotiation to encourage the building of trust and respect but it’s failing and we’re at our wits end. 
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult and upsetting situation. It's only been two months, don't be so hard on yourself, sometimes this stuff takes time especially when you're trying to get through to someone who is still developing. Have you asked if something brought on this change in behaviour, if there's anything going on that she doesn't want to tell you about? Some teenagers tell lies simply because they want to have a life beyond their parents and she might feel that by asking her what she's doing, you're prying. Keep these sorts of things in mind when you speak to her. It sounds like you're trying your best and sometimes teenagers will just rebel against anything, even if there's nothing wrong. You may find it helpful to read our articles on teenage behaviour. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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Cristal
Thankyou for your reply.
She’s becoming less communicative and refuses to answer any questions we ask her.
She replies with lies and anger/aggression. Even if it’s something simple about what she’d like to eat.
Since I emailed you it has come to light that she is FaceTiming an 18 year old boy (technically a MAN). She also went to a party at his house and stayed overnight with a few other friends. Obviously she lied about her whereabouts knowing that her dad and I would’ve refused permission.
She’s adamant they’re just ‘mates’ but I’ve heard the content of their recent conversations and quite frankly I’m worried she’s planning to embark on a sexual relationship, which is obviously illegal.
We have downloaded an app onto her phone, which she agreed to (& our phones) called life 360 which helps track location but she’s found out how to disable it.
She’s always been quite an open child, ready to ask questions or discuss her problems but not of late. She’s also no longer very affectionate with both myself and her dad. Basically immersed in her own selfish teenage world.
We are very concerned and don’t know where best to ask for support or to confront her.
Thankyou
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familylives
What you are going through sounds horrendous and I can see that you are feeling really at the end of your rope with her risky behaviour. I would strongly urge you to get in touch with our Email Support Service for one to one support. Please email them at askus@familylives.org.uk and you can copy and paste what you have told us in the email to give them some background. Thank you. 
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