Esther
My extremely mature 13 year old daughter bravely managed to tell us yesterday that she's Gay. I'm extremely proud of her, and am fairly convinced she is . 
I have mentioned it to a few adult Friends, including Gay friends, they all tell my 13 is too young to be certain. 
She developed early, looks like a 16 year old, and is very mature. I don't want her to feel I'm now questioning her decision, as she made a very convincing case yesterday! But should I probe deeper?
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familylives
Hi, I understand that this is a difficult situation for you. I want you to consider something, if she told you she was straight would you think that she was too young to be certain? All sorts of people develop at different rates, especially when they're exploring their personality, but study upon study has shown that the best way to deal with this situation is to support your child. You may find it helpful to contact FFLAG (families and friends of lesbians and gays) for more advice, you can call them on 0300 688 0368. You can also find a lot of advice and information on the Stonewall website. You may find it helpful to read our article on coming out. If you feel you need further support please e-mail us at askus@familylives.org.uk or contact us through our live chat service which is open, Monday to Friday between 1.30pm and 5.30pm or call our freephone helpline on 0808 800 2222.
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snoopy71
Hi Esther ..... well whether 13 is too young to positively identify as gay is, I agree, debatable, but what is absolutely clear is that she cannot in any way promote herself as gay and have a physical relationship to cement it until she is of legal age. I feel a bit nervous that identifying yourself as gay at 13 means you need a relationship to prove to yourself and everyone else that you are indeed gay.  One thing for sure, she has an extremely supportive and understanding mum, and the worst you can do is to ride this storm until age has taken over in a more responsible way. One thing I can say is that I once had a partner with a 13 year old daughter who identified with the gay scene and looked every part of it as well. But guess what, time took over and she met the most macho man you could imagine, had children and went on to be happy. Best of luck on this one !  ðŸ˜ƒ
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Esther
Hi.
I'm not sure if this is a direct reply to snoopy71 but thank you for the message.
Agreed. No physical relationship is even being considered at her age. And I've told her to be open to possibilities.
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